Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Aung San Suu Kyi, and myself

When I look at Aung San Suu Kyi and the detention she is willingly accepting for the freedom of Burma, I can’t help but notice the analogy of the situation in my own life.

Burma is governed by its military regime, which is known to be powerful, sadistic and egoistic. Aung San Suu Kyi is fighting for a democratic government in lieu of the military dictatorship. That’s the father.

Aung San Suu Kyi, who won the elections in 1990 but was refused assumption of the office of Prime Minister, was placed under house arrest. She had been placed back into detention several times and is still under house arrest on this very day, after going through several trials.

Through her 13 years of house arrest (in the 19 years since 1990), she held her strength as a person with a cause. She kept herself hopeful of the future in which Burma, her dear motherland, would be a free nation where a democratic government voted by the people would be in charge. That’s the lady.

Many nations, looking back into history and seeing great advocates of non-violence such as Nelson Mandela and Mahatma Gandhi, are rallying together in support of Aung San Suu Kyi. The United Nations are getting involved with their negotiations. Each person who chooses to help her finds his own little way to help her get closer to freedom. That’s us - those who choose to help the lady in our own little way.

A little though to ponder: Small drops makes an ocean. Stop the drops and you have a desert.

Friday, June 26, 2009

Learning to Master Fear

Extracted from “Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life” (Copyright © 2008 by Arlene Harder, MFT)

There are a number of emotions that can create the Velcro® Syndrome*. The most common, though, is an emotion that has an inordinate capacity to interfere with our intention to change. Fear. When fear is your master, it controls you in many ways, particularly when you want your life to change in a fairly significant way.

When fear is your master, you bring the future into the present.

When you master fear, you accept the future only when it actually arrives.

When fear is your master, you forget that you can learn to solve new problems.

When you master fear, you remember how good it feels to bring your skills into new situations.

When fear is your master, you believe you have to face life’s challenges all by yourself.

When you master fear, you remember the many times when you’ve expressed your feelings and your needs clearly and have been supported by others.

When fear is your master, you stop trying because you might make a mistake.

When you master fear, you gain strength from the many times you’ve made a mistake, forgiven yourself, learned from it, and moved on.

When fear is your master, you focus on the separate details of life, judging one thing as good and another as bad, with a particular emphasis on the bad, unable to see life as a whole.

When you master fear, you remember the times that you have transcended your sense of separateness, times when you experienced the ordinary, individual details of life as a whole, when you felt a connection with the essence of life.

Finally, when fear, a very serious emotion, is your master, you ignore the pleasures that life offers.

When you master fear, you live in each moment as it happens, discovering that you can’t be overwhelmed by what may – or may not – happen in the future because you’re fully focused on the present.

* Want to know what Velcro® Syndrome is? Get hold of the book “Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life” (by Arlene Harder, MFT)

Friday, June 19, 2009

The Power of Your Own Mind

Napoleon Hill-What the mind can conceive, believe & achieve.


My search led me to the study of the spiritual forces with which all of us are blest. And it was in this field that I came upon a clue, which has enabled me to help millions of people to find their earthy destinies.

I want to describe my discovery in the simplest terms possible. Because it will reveal to you why it is true that whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve. Regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past, or how lofty your aims and hopes may be.

I caught my first fleeting glimpse of the profound law which provided the means by which we may choose our own purpose in life and attain it while I was being coached by Andrew Carnegie during the organisation of the Science of Success Philosophy.

I just finished telling Mr. Carnegie that I feared he had chosen the wrong person to give the world the first practical philosophy of personal success, because of my youth, my lack of education and my lack of finances.

Well, at this point Mr. Carnegie delivered a lecture that I shall never forget, because it changed my entire life and paved the way for my helping to change the lives of millions of people, some of them not yet born.

“Let me call your attention to a great power which is under your control,” said Mr. Carnegie, “A power which is greater than poverty, greater than the lack of education, greater than all of your fears and superstitions combined. It is the power to take possession of your own mind and direct it to whatever ends you may desire.

“This profound power,” Mr. Carnegie continued, “is the gift of the Creator and it must have been considered the greatest of all of His gifts to man, because it is the only thing over which man has the complete and unchallengeable right of control and direction.

“When you speak of your poverty and lack of education,” Mr. Carnegie explained, “you are simply directing your mind power to attract these undesirable circumstances. Because it is true that whatever your mind feeds upon, your mind attracts to you.

“Now you see why it is important that you recognise that all success begins with definiteness of purpose, with a clear picture in your mind of precisely what you want from life.

And then Mr. Carnegie continued his speech with a description of the great universal truth which made such an impact upon my mind that I began then and there to give myself a new outlook on life and set up for myself a goal so far above my previous achievements that it shocked my friends and relatives when they heard about it.

"Everyone,” said Mr. Carnegie, “comes to the earth plane blest with the privilege of controlling his mind power and directing it to whatever ends he may choose. But,” he continued, “everyone brings over with him at birth the equivalent of two sealed envelopes. One of which is clearly labelled: ‘The Riches you may enjoy if you take possession of your own mind and direct it to ends of your choice.’ And the other is labelled: ‘The Penalties you must pay if you neglect to take possession of your mind and direct it.’

And now, let me reveal to you,” said Mr. Carnegie, “the contents of those two sealed envelopes. In the one labelled Riches is this list of blessings:

  1. Sound health.
  2. Peace of mind.
  3. A labour of love of your own choice.
  4. Freedom from fear and worry.
  5. A positive mental attitude.
  6. Material riches of your own choice and quantity.

In the sealed envelope labelled Penalties,” Mr. Carnegie continued, “is this list of the prices one must pay for neglecting to take possession of his own mind:

  1. Ill health.
  2. Fear and worry.
  3. Indecision and doubt.
  4. Frustration and discouragement throughout life.
  5. Poverty and want.
  6. And a whole flock of evils consisting of envy, greed, jealousy, anger, hatred and superstition.”

Now, my mission in life is to help you and everyone who needs my help to open up and use the contents of the sealed envelope labelled Riches. And the starting point from which you must take off if you wish to write your own ticket from here on out, for the remainder of your life, I will describe for you in these simple instructions.

  1. Procure a neat pocket-sized notebook, or something on the order of this one here, loose leaf affair. And on page one write down a clear description of your major desire in life. The one circumstance, position or thing which you will be willing to accept as your idea of success. And remember before you begin writing, that your only limitations are those which you set up in your own mind or permit others to set up for you. And,
  2. On page two of your notebook write down a clear statement of precisely what you intend to give, in return for that which you desire from life. And then start in right where you stand now to begin giving. And,
  3. Memorize both of your statements, what you desire and what you intend to give in return for it. And repeat them at least a dozen times daily.

And always end your statements with this expression of gratitude for the blessings with which you were gifted at birth:

“I ask not, oh Divine Providence, for more riches, but more wisdom with which to accept and use wisely the riches I received at birth in the form of the power to control and direct my mind to whatever ends I desire.”

If you are not too successful or self-satisfied to accept and express this profound prayer; if you accept it and express it in the same spirit of humble sincerity in which I pass it on to you, a new and better world will reveal itself to you. A world in which you will see reflected the circumstances and the things which you yourself have created.

And now let me close this, our first visit, with my favourite expression of gratitude:

“Oh Divine Providence, I ask not for more riches, but more wisdom with which to make wiser use of the riches you gave me at birth consisting in the power to control and direct my own mind to whatever ends I desire.”

End of Transcript.

Tuesday, June 16, 2009


I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
'Oh excuse me please' was my reply.
He said, 'Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you.'

We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.
But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old..

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
'Move out of the way,' I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.
While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,

'While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love,
you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.'

By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
'Wake up, little one, wake up,' I said.

'Are these the flowers you picked for me?'
He smiled, 'I found 'em, out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue.'

I said, 'Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way.'

He said, 'Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway.'

I said, 'Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.'


Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don't you think?

So what is behind the story? Do you know what the word FAMILY means?


Sunday, June 14, 2009

Next Train: Disk Boot Failure

Next Train: Disk Boot Failure

It’s been years since I saw a computer screen like this! I saw this in one of the information screens in Jurong East MRT. Apparently this screen is hooked up to a computer with AMD K6-2 processor (running at 300 MHz) and 16MB RAM memory. The computer’s hard disk has failed, causing it to display the message “Disk Boot Failure, Insert System Disk and Press Enter.” Now, where do the train passengers find that System Disk?

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Relationship Audio Books

Some audio books that would help you in your dating, relationships, marriage and life.

Why men don't listen and women can't read maps - Allan & Barbara Pease  [Review]

The Five Love Languages - Gary Chapman [Details]

Right-click the links and save the ZIP files. Then extract them to get the MP3 files inside.